Riot and Frolic

a mostly ballroom dance, but also a bunch of other stuff, blog

  • Play this.  Not "Inchworm".

    http://grooveshark.com/widget.swf

    [Not seeing anything from your RSS/email feed?  Reading from your phone?  Find the playlist on Grooveshark.  It's awesome.]

    What are your current (ie, from this decade) favorite dance songs?

    50b56a2ff58b4113ff9188855cfc78f4
    One year ago: Other People's Paint, in which I make a bad hip-hop joke and reference.

    Two years ago: Pam Beasley and Jim, in which I am still impressed with acronym jokes.

  • I was waxing philosophical on my run today, thinking of my motivations to be a runner.  Like, why would I really run, not just lace up my shoes every 10 days and jog about the neighborhood (like I have been doing this summer).  

    running

    photo courtesy of Diestler!

    There are a lot of reasons I'd like to call myself a runner again (let's admit that I haven't jogged much since the marathon last fall), but my main topic of thought was:

    Does 'want' equal sacrifice? 

    E80c7f190addb37bdfedc4314fef3d5e

    Why do I want to run?  In fact, why does anyone want  to do anything?  

    While my life isn't exactly cushy, I'm not uncomfortable in any way.  I get enough sleep, eat enough food, have a roof over my head, electricity, a gym membership, a fun job, great friends and family… Well, maybe it IS cushy.  

    I WANT to be a runner; I WANT to lose 10 pounds; I WANT to get sponsors for mah blog; I WANT to do LOTS of things.  But all of those things require me to DO something: to sacrifice time, energy, delicious food, pride, etc.

    If you want something, isn't it slightly out of reach?  Because if it wasn't out of reach, you would just have it.  But what makes us want something that is out of reach?  

    25a4c265900013c0d4b32690cf63ca55

    Any ideas?  Give me your best psychological/philosophical review.  Comments are welcome! 

    6be0a651f5840b5ed6384a1d3563d91f
    One year ago: LLLL, in which we party.

  • – BUDGETS!  Being self-employed is AWESOME, but also really scary, mostly in the money department.  There's taxes and overhead and insurance and investments to deal with, where before there was just a paycheck.  We hadn't put that much thought into where and how our money was going around (it just was), but I think I got it on lockdown.  Big thumbs up to mint.com for being helpful and easy to understand (once I swore at it for a couple hours).  I must say it's a big relief to know exactly where our money is going.

    – DEBT SNOWBALL! Another relief?  Doing a debt snowball.  Thanks to Trees Full of Money for their automatic and slightly pretty version.  Mortgage paid off in 5 years? OKAY.

    – thanks for all the homeschooling feedback.  I feel a little like a freak about it.  Plus, we went to a homeschool association picnic and the kids and adults were pretty normal-seeming and not dressed like they were from Laura Ingalls Wilder books OR wearing too much hemp.  

    – celebrated my friend's birthday (SO WHAT if it was 7 months late? extended birthday celebration – yay!) at The Paint Pub, where you paint… and drink.  Awesome.  More about that later this week.

    – manicure.  I got my acrylic nails off, had a manicure, and got a gel polish.  My nails are short, blindingly pink, and amazing.  Happy Nails on Snelling (Saint Paul, MN yo) is the bomb.  Go there.  

    gelish pink

    it hurts my eyes a little bit

    cruise directing.  The G and I had a bunch of people ask us if we would put on a dance cruise, so we are.  We were highly complimented that people think we're fun.  

    How was your week?  Are your kids back in school?  Are you back in school?  

    It's three piece suit week!

    6537ee0c1dcdff39599fa019c46dff59
    Two years ago: Ear Candy, in which I know you're lying.

  • How To Perform Badly While Ballroom Dancing

    • schlump.  When you want people to think you're a terrible dancer, do your best to hunch.  Lower you head, stick out your belly, and be as short as possible.  
    • don't smile.  Everyone wants to see someone having fun, so try more "angry" faces.  Channeling apathy, fear, or thoughtfulness also works wonders.
    • dance off-time, or with inconsistent rhythm.  Only dancers who know what they're doing dance with the music.  By all means, just move your feet at any old time.
    • wearing the wrong "furnishings".  Ladies: strapless dresses and showing your bra are good choices.  Your, and everyone else's,  concern of a imminent wardrobe malfunction will make your dancing a second priority to what you're wearing.  Men: white socks and white underwear are classic.*  

    OH WAIT.  YOU MEAN YOU'RE TRYING NOT TO PERFORM BADLY?

    PLEASE GOD, THEN, STOP DOING THOSE THINGS!

    Tips for Performing Well

    • stand up tall, you beautiful you.
    • smile like you mean it.
    • dance on time.
    • wear something that looks and feels good.  Second opinions and the chart below might help.

    Women's Furnishings
    * Men, your in-depth version is coming soon.  

    Happy Friday!

    Be58b0ac54b8ebcc9c951abb9891bf3f
    Two years ago: Craft From The Past, in which I make stuff.

  • I started MAH BLOG as an effort to communicate less.  

    Or communicate EVERYTHING, but less repeatedly.

    On that note, here's what I'll have to explain to everyone at some point:

    Why We Are Choosing Homeschool

    1. We travel a lot – as a family, we jet (or more likely, "car") around the nation about once a month for work.  Homeschool is portable.
    2. We work odd hours – as ballroom dancers, my hubs and I generally work evenings.  If V goes to school at 8am or so, comes home at 3pm, and goes to bed at 9pm, she will never see her dad (who works full time).
    3. The public schools we could immediately get into are not great – as in, terrible.  Like, bottom of the city terrible. 
    4. The public schools that we liked A LOT were enrolled by a lottery – we're #213 on a waiting list with 15 spots open, so we're totally getting in, right?
    5. The private schools we liked are out of our price range – it's just not an option right now.

    Thoughts About Homeschooling

    • I had always homeschoolers were crazy, religious (or crazy-religious), anti-social, separatist weirdos.  The G had grown up thinking homeschoolers were super liberal, hippie elitists.  Experience has taught me neither is the average, although there are some horror stories of either example.  
    • I'm slightly terrified of being responsible for the education of a child.  Yeah, duh, I own a few kids already and am "responsible" for their well-being and upbringing, but now there's MATH involved.
    • I'm very excited.  There is organization and easy right and wrong answers and school supplies and projects and paper.
    • Dance class, choir, co-ops, field trips.  There will lots of socialization; don't worry.  We're not very good at the whole recluse thing.

    Feel free to comment.  I will virtually stick my tongue out or high five you, depending on a rant or rave.

    A927fe8852c43d197db35f532e382670
    One year ago: Does This Make Me Bad or Great?, in which I still wrinkle my nose.

    Two years ago: Something Salad-y, in which DDL strangely appears again.

     

  • We bought a fixer-upper a few years ago.  [Grand understatement.]

    The first year or so was the blissful demolition of the sagging back deck and sketchy basement "apartment" and pulling up the carpet.

     

    deck o' death

    BEFORE: plus, hornets!

    basement

    BEFORE: as creepy as you think it was

    bedroom

    BEFORE: this was the first to go

    entryway

    BEFORE: "blue institutional" did not say "home" to me

    Then we moved onto refinishing the overly polyurethaned wood floors and removing the five unnecessary doors separating our lower level rooms.  

    kitchen

    BEFORE: where's jim morrison?

    Overhauling the kitchen was next.

    kitchen

    BEFORE: the evil set of "that 70s show"

    kitchen now

    AFTER: thank you, ikea

    kitchen floor

    AFTER: careful, you might step on the 21st century in here

    After that, there was ripping off the old siding and starting to replace it, which lead to replacing the exterior doors and fixing some floor joists and putting in header beams to open up the floor plan, and on and on and on.

     

    house wrap

    AFTER: this is what insulation looks like, heretofore, not known of in these parts

    kitchen

    AFTER: there was a wall there once

     

    Basically, we've been living in a construction zone for 5 years.  There are many unfinished edges.  

    But we are making progress.

    As of a week ago, my home has two, TWO, entry points which open and shut AND lock.  

    It's nonsense.

    There is a wall of lovely double hung windows where a drafty, missing-paned, unsecure pair of French doors used to be. 

    french doors

    BEFORE: there's no lock on these? that's cool
    windows

    AFTER: sunny all the time

    windows

    AFTER: i'm never buying curtains

     

    What will become of our house now that there's no longer a secret entrance?  How will we keep undesirables away without the rickety staircase leading up to the only door that works?  Will I have to answer the door if our doorbell actually works?  Do I need to start using my dust pan in preparation when I don't have a hole in the floor that I can sweep my dirt into?

    *sigh*

    Fb2b96e8511ab4ead7c9089e9293d7ca
    P.S. Looking back on the photos – BLURG! – what did we move into?  A million high fives to The G (Hollister and Bratt relations, too) for doing ALL THE WORK.   The house looks great, seriously.

     Two years ago: LLLL, in which the new baby farts.

  •  

    Recipe for Awesome Sauce:

    – 1 part dijon mustard (Grey Poupon, duh)

    – 1 part plain Greek yogurt

    – salt and pepper to taste

    Mix ingredients together and eat on everything.  

    Great on pork tenderloin, as fake hollandaise sauce on fake eggs Benedict (over easy eggs on toast), as a salad dressing, as soup, what have you.

    Brilliant culinary concoction credit to The G.

    68ae8a5c6d5a3efbe2582d85546b6a0c
    One year ago: LLLL, in which Patrick Swayze is George Clooney.

    Two years ago: The Chair and Other Nifty Gifties, in which I do inventory.

  • – BIRTHDAY WEEK, so:

    – donuts (walked down bright and early to the local place, SugaRush) for breakfast twice.

     

    donuts

    no tv and no donuts make homer go something something

     

    – the cutest card of all time, that I've been saving "for V" for a year and a half.  

    paper dolls

    little red riding hood paper dolls for… me

     

    – ridiculous birthday lunch.  Yes, sprinkles.  But yes, carrots, also.

    sprinkle sandwich

    healthy-ish

     

    – baby with balloons attached.  I'm not sure why we even got her presents.  Balloons were enough.  This shenanigan kept her giggling for 30 minutes.  

    balloons

    it's not quite "up"

     

    – baby midget.  Zoo might have turned 2, but if you think her 2T size dress is supposed to be a maxi, you're wrong.

    it's not a maxi

    maxi? not a maxi

     

    – The G and I had a date.  We went to a dance event (a student showcase at the local Arthur Murray) with which we didn't have any professional affliation.  A friend invited us; I think she thought we would say no.  But YES.  It was amazing.  We ate all their food and sat on our butts and watched and cheered for everyone and danced silly together at the breaks in the show.  

    – Amazing beer.  Have you NOT been to the Happy Gnome?  Do you like beer?  Do you like food?  Do you like yourself?  Then go.  Because they have the best edibles and drinkables as witnessed by the name of the beer I imbibed: Clown Shoes (wait, it gets better) Porcine (yeah, like a pig) Unidragon (HALF UNICORN, HALF DRAGON).

    Clown-Shoes-Porcine-Unidragon-Bourbon-Barrel-aged-Imperial-Stout-e1347152451670
    That's right.  Clown Shoes.  Porcine.  Unidragon.

    And corn dogs.  Gourmet freaking corn dogs.  Wild boar sausage coated with corny, peppery crunchiness that you can dip in CREAMY BACON KETCHUP.  Carnivores, delight.

    – saw a bunch of fun people and did fun things and the little ladies slept until, like, 7:52am this morning, so SCORE.

    Man, stellar week.  How was yours?

     

    sam elliot

    mustache week

     

  • If you hadn't noticed, I am a ballroom dancer.  I have been for quite a while.  

    If you hadn't noticed, I am opinionated.  Again, for a while.

    Combine this experience with this personality trait and you get this:

    Dance Products I Hate

    • those stupid not-Capezio fishnets.  What do they even do?  FYI: fishnets are worn to "hooshz" (pull in) all the jiggly bits that aren't meant to jiggle.  Cellulite be gone!  Even-colored skin tone be glorious!  They hurt to wear a little with their hyper-effective properties, but it's like wearing a bra, and we all do that most of the time. And EVERYONE SHOULD WEAR THEM.  Yes, even you skinny bitches should wear them.  [Exceptions include any professional lady in the finals, and, that's it.]
      joanna trojer

      no

      But these?  Useless.  Saggy, shreddy, stupid, non-hooshzing, useless uselessness. [Buy: Capezio or bust.  Caramel (light tan) is good for most ladies, toffee (dark tan) is for VERY tan dancers.]

    • clear Ardell lash adhesive.  Like a burning, ficklely adhesive, drippy product is what I'm looking for in something I put near MY EYES.
      ardell clear

      no

      [Buy: Ardell's DUO white lash adhesive, which comes in a tube, dries clear, and isn't annoying.]

    • the color that Supadance considers "flesh" in a smooth or standard shoe.  Waltz tango foxtrot, indeed.  
      smooth pump

      so light

      rhythm sandal

      just right

      For my all shoes to be relatively the same color, and match the "toffee" color of fishnets that I own, I dye my smooth shoes (with tanning liquid).

      shoes

      no

      If you're wearing "caramel" fishnets, you have nothing to worry about.  If you're wearing "toffee" tights, and haven't dyed your shoes to match your legs, your feet are glowing beacons of technique, for better or for worse, and *gasp* you're shortening your leg lines.

      photo by Ingrid

      no

       [Buy: shoes that match your leg color.]

    • ProTan – smelly, weird, streaky self-tanning liquid.  Maybe it was the early '00s way to get bronze, but it sucked.  
      Pro-tan

      no

      [Buy: anything from Danceshopper's Self-Tanning page.  I'm a big fan of Dance Spa Competition Color.  Note: some products are better used to enhance existing tans, and not as a base.  If you ever have a question, leave a comment and I'll let you know.]

    • false eyelashes with a thick band.  There's difficult to put on symmetrically, make your eyes disappear, and look literally heavy.  
      14024598_130419063000

      these might be fine, but look suspiciously intense

      Falsies should make people say, "Gosh, her eyes are pretty," not "Gosh, she has false eyelashes on."

      105

      yes

      [Buy: Ardell's Fashion Lashes 105.  GAH!  LOVE THE 105s!

    What do you love/hate to use for dancing?  Did I bash something you dig?  Let's complain!  Let's recommend!

    Cd467f6a2dd04af969a406499d5eedbd
    Next week is Mustache Week!  This guy is going to kick it off, but I bet you don't even recognize him without his awesome 'stache.

    One year ago: Don't Think About It, in which I didn't know that very talented athlete was also crazy.

    Two years ago: Can't Name This Post, in which I was too busy naming a baby to name my post.

     

  • Zoo is two. 

    While she is my first child to make an example of what Terrible Twos are supposed to mean, she also does this:

    luxor baby

    look at how cute I am

    And this…

    broccomole baby

    eating broccomole by the handful

    And this:

    calhoun baby

    splashing peacefully for 30 minutes in freezing water

    Have a great birthday, you weird baby.

    Dustin_hoffman_by_donvito62-t2
    One year ago: Birthday Baby, in which I do the same thing I did today.

    Two years ago: nothing, in which I was producing a baby.